To judge.

Who are we to judge others' lives? To cut to the point, when one receives news relating to a maid abuser, a thief, a bully, a murderer, etc, how should one respond? Do we hurl harsh words to them, the baddies? Do we pity the victims the most? Or, should we realise that the bully is the ultimate victim, falling into his very own trap which he doesn't know of?

If we just read this, Matthew 7: 1-5.
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, "Let me take the speck out of your eye," when all the time there is a plank in you own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

The weightage of the consequence of lying is equivalent to the weightage of the consequence of murdering. One may think that lying(even to a loved one) does not send himself to a death sentence and he would receive a lighter punishment. He's wrong. The sins we've done, be it one or countless, will all cost us eternal death.

But with God's love and way, we can indeed avoid eternal death; Jesus had paid the price for us. However, our physical existence will be gone; we will still face death, a physical death. By the way, for prebelievers, you may think this is rot, won't blame you, it's overwhelming for me but I've believed and will not be shaken and stay strong in His stronghold. We have done some things which aren't glorifying to God, who are we to judge the rest?

One should ask himself why the bully did it, in what circumstances was the bully brought up in, was he ever shown the right path to learn and live, who really loved him? Did someone pamper him? All these questions tells about the entire situation. Bullies don't have a right frame of mind; they think they are really sober and really know what they are doing. Who on earth will say that they are wrong when they don't know what they have actually stepped into and perhaps feel that they have power? Who would admit and change for the better?

The victims (the bullied) have a right frame of mind, they know how much the bully will suffer in the end (don't they, deep down?). The latter's suffering is much more than theirs'. It's the bully who is suffering and yet doesn't feel the pain till the end. It's like a drug abuser sniffing glue and becomes really high, and when the police investigate him, he's sent to the hospital with a doctor poking a huge needle into him, and yet the drug abuser doesn't feel it, instead, he smiles and laughs, unaware of his future.

It's also sad that sometimes we aren't empathetic towards the bully, not that we should support him, but to bring him to the right path, to show him the way, to carry him up from his fall. And to truly forgive and forget the past. This, I say, is compassion, grace and mercy to the "enemy" (the only enemy is just Satan). In fact, none of us deserve grace and what not. But GOD gave us those, thus we should also show them to others. Know what grace is? Grace is undeserving favor upon one.